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3 Life Lessons Learned In College
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Fresh out of high-school my confidence wasn’t particularly high. My parents had always done their best to instil self-love into me growing up, so I wasn’t always down on myself, but my lack of height coupled with going through puberty made me not always view myself in the most positive light. So, graduating high-school was a relief. I was finally done with the day to day and was ready to re-invent myself, even go through the oh so elusive glow-up everyone seemed to be going through at that time. I packed up all my things and moved to the Netherlands to pursue further education and my life truly changed.
In university I learned a bunch of life lessons. Eat a lot before you drink because hangovers suck, washing dishes is a real pain, and always check your university email because deadlines sneak up on you real quick. Among all these wonderful lessons I learned a few that have truly transformed my life.
1. No one’s really as focused on you as you think they are.
For any of you self-conscious people out there you’ll know what I’m talking about. You’ll enter a room and immediately get nervous because you’re sure every eye in the room is following your every movement. Judging everything about you and often coming to very negative conclusions. This happened to me a lot going to the university library. I’d always get nervous on my way to get a seat which would make it hard for me to actually start studying. I’d eventually start studying but then the feeling would come back every time I’d have to leave my seat.
Then one of my now closest friends told me something I will never forget.
“The world doesn’t revolve around you, sure people will notice you as you move around, but not any more than you notice them, do you immediately judge people when they enter a room? No? then why would they do so to you? You’re simply not that special”.
As harsh as that all sounds when I heard her say this it changed my life. She was right. The world doesn’t revolve around me, I…
